Complaining is for cowards
A complaint is a statement that something is not living up to our expectations and not acceptable and nor satisfactory. A compliant suggests that there is something else a complainer knows as a satisfactory and acceptable alternative and believes same is possible, achievable and available.
So, we complain only if we know ‘something better’ exists. Imagine someone complaining that when he jumps off of the roof of a building he falls instead of floating in the air! Such a person should be taken to a psychiatric ward urgently. Why? Because no one in the right mind could complain about gravity, as it here to stay and complaining about it won’t change it in anyway. So, this means that we don’t usually complain about THINGS WE KNOW AND BELIEVE CANNOT CHANGE, things we know has never being done, and things that are not available anywhere.
Hence, complaining means you have a reference point of something better that you would prefer instead. Wanting something better is not a problem, however most of those who complain about ‘something better’ expect someone else to give them ‘something better’ AND are mostly unwilling to take the risk of creating ‘something better’ they are complaining about not having.
The best thing to do is
1) either to accept that you are making the choice to stay where you are without ‘something better’, take responsibility for your choice, and stop complaining,
2) or take the risk of doing something new and different to create your life exactly the way you want it, and stop complaining.
The first choice is not ideal for most because taking responsibility and blaming no one but ourselves for our situation is a hard pill to swallow. Just like a frog that would remain in hot water until death, we sometimes choose to remain in unhealthy and uncomfortable situations and complain about it instead of doing something to leave or change same. If your complaining hasn’t brought you what you are looking for, it is just madness to keep on complaining as you still going to get the same result you have always gotten.
The second choice involves taking risk and attempting the leave the familiar for the unknown. Fear of the unknown or unfamiliar keeps us bound and without growth or better life. It is deemed better for most of us not to take that leap but rather complain and blame anyone else but ourselves. If you want to get where you want to be, of course you’re going to have to take calculated risk.
We are more likely to get what we want from others if we ask than if we complain to them about it. We also cannot complain and look for solution at the same time, we have to choose one. A complaint apportions a blame, and most of us react negatively to blame and would look for reason to ignore it. So, complaining doesn’t help anyone, it just takes away our power to effect the change we want to see and snatches our responsibility away from us. Complaining is reserved for irresponsible lazy cowards, and you are not one of them!
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