New Year’s resolutions
I have never really understood the logic behind the ‘new year’s resolutions’ concept. It means one plans to change one’s life, habits or goals in the new calendar year. I think it is mostly due the fact that one realizes that one was not as fruitful or successful in the the passing year as one would have liked. Most do this each year over and over again and they never get to achieve or reach half of their resolution and goals.
Clearly there is a desire, probably the will, but the execution is not right! The question is, why do some people achieve such a great success and reaching most of their goals whilst others don’t?
I can hear some mentioning reasons like, motivation, resources, time etc. I think these are just symptoms and the real reason most don’t achieve much, or much of their goals, is that; there is a misalignment between your goals and your values.
If you value socializing more than good grades, you would go to the party the night before the examination day. If you value your friend more than your wife, you’d spend more time with your friends than you do with your wife.
So, before we say you have failed reaching your goal/New Year’s resolutions, we have to ask what it is we value more than reaching our new year’s resolutions.
I think we are all good at something and we place most of our attention and energy, and use most of our time, on things we value the most. So, before we set ourselves up for failure and frustration by setting goals we might not work on achieving, we have to ask ourselves these questions:
1. How important is achieving this goal to me?
2. Am I willing to do whatever it takes to achieve them?
3. What am I willing to forgo to achieve these goals?
4. How would I feel if I didn’t achieve these goals?
5. Why do I want to achieve these goals?
Remember, failure is nothing but giving up before succeeding. But again, you can only give up on it if you don’t value it as much as what you giving it up for!
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